A whole new world

A whole new world has opened up for me as this is my first time experiencing the blogging life and I’m extremely excited, i love the content available and I intent to post some really valuable content myself. I’m still in the stage of figuring out what I would like to talk about, however, seems I’m leaning to the educational side as most of my post to me are educational. My desire is to share my experiences; thoughts and knowledge with you’ll and maybe in the near future make a career out of it as I always had a love for literature/ reading , but for now I’m having fun with my writing so please don’t be shy, check out my page.
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New Experience

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Vacation is almost over and a new school term is about to begins, everything seems to be new around this time , new books, new shoes, new bags new class and new school for some. As a parent with a child who’s about to start a new school I have mixed emotions, I’m very happy that he’s entering into a new era of his life with so many great opportunities ahead, he’s going to make new friends and have a group of new teachers and have a set of incredible experiences. However, on the other hand I’m a bit worried and nervous because high school has definitely evolved; it’s certainly not the same as when I attended a few moons ago.
A lot of counselling, and talking would definitely be conducted, I guess as a parent you can never talk too much. However I have some essential advice that can be used by parents to help in this transitioning period.
As a parent it is important to keep that communication portal open with your child, always be open to have discussions with your child even if it may be uncomfortable for you, be prepared for those awkward questions that may arise at dinner time. Be your child’s greatest mentor meaning lead by example always do what seems right, because believe it or not they look at you every move and pattern their life after yours.
Get involved, become very invested in your child’s life join the schools parents teachers association, take part in event, attend that football match you son have been talking about since the beginning of the school term, don’t be afraid to spend that extra money on a pair of tugs it’s all about showing interest in what they love.
Have a system in place that works for you both, your child will definitely have an schedule for school with different subjects on different days, their workload will increase tremendously, and if you are a working parent like most, you will need to format a working schedule for you both, for example, a study time table in which he can review work done in school that day, don’t worry it will all pay off when you see those A’s come rolling in. to further emphasize teach your child the importance of time management which would help him/her cope better with high school life.
Talk to you child about puberty and what to expect in terms of developmental changes which will occur in their bodies, educate them about sex, for example the responsibilities that involve being sexually active i.e. teenage pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, to name a few. According to a friend of mine children no longer live in a bubble they are quite aware of these thing, so who’s better to teach and lead them than you the parent.
Keep track of your child’s social media accounts, if you can avoid the use of it as much as possible, however that may seem very unrealistic as the time we life is run by social media. What you can do if it is necessary for school etc , you can create an account with your child so in that way you also have access to that account.
Finally this post will not be complete if I didn’t speak about keeping your child motivated, as this helps to develop a well-rounded human for society. Allow them to get involve in extracurricular activities such as the science club in school, or the football team, also getting involved in the local church youth ministry is a plus, it never too early to get involved in the things of God. I do hope this post was helpful to parents that have children starting a new school; please share your experiences in the comment box as that it can also help inspire other parents.

 

LAZY DAYS

Ever had those mornings where getting out of bed seems not so appealing, you’ve worked all week and on that only day off you just feel like sleeping in, and you literally do sleep in and do nothing for the day. Some may refer to you as lazy, but I’m here to tell you it’s perfectly normal to have a lazy day experience and when the feeling arises don’t feel guilty about it.
Usually a lazy morning entails sleeping very late, the old people often refer to it as beauty sleep, and it is said to make one look younger ,embrace that beauty sleep. Sometimes you lay in bed just simply reading a book or listening to music, also going through your social media, while some prefer to read the bible and mediate during that time.
Breakfast is usually late most often in the mid of the day , and if the laziness is extreme you can also find yourself ordering in something from a fast food outlet and maybe that will be the only time you’ll actually move from the bed along with having to take a shower.
You may take a mid-evening nap along with having a few snacks, also participate in looking at some movies and before you know its night time and preparation for another day of work.
Embrace those lazy days and don’t feel guilty about doing such at all.
Please share your lazy day experience in the comment box below.

Understanding the Claw Part two

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When it comes to women issues men most of the time are clueless and seldom knows how to When react in such situations. I often have my male friends tell me that most of the time it very difficult to please a woman and know how she feels or think at any given time, more so, during that period of premenstrual syndrome PMS which often leaves them in a limbo. However women if we are to be real I would say, yes we are very complicated creature and can be a handful to deal with.One of the major issue that every woman has to deal with every month is that premenstrual period where our hormones are signalling to us that “aunty is about to come to town” that a slang that we sometimes refer to as our period.
You find her unreasonable today because it was only just last week you forgot to take the garbage out and it really didn’t matter if you did or not, however, this week she wants to kill you for not doing such and you’re confused. You’re saying to yourself is this woman going mad or probably you missed something. Often time you’ll do miss the bigger picture which is yes she’s going through something which she has no control over, however with some lifestyle modifications these symptoms can improve which will help her better deal with these feelings around that time.
See part One Understanding the Claw…..for a few tips a woman can used when dealing with premenstrual syndrome PMS.
However today I will be addressing the men and giving you’ll a few tips on how to assist your woman during that period and also help you cope around that premenstrual period.
Most of the times you find yourself wrongfully engaged in endless arguments with your women during these periods. Accusations fly from both parties, resulting in an unhappy time for everyone. Few men understand that most of what goes on during these periods are far beyond their woman’s control, and they are victims of the circumstances more than the men are.
The good news is there are various techniques men can use to help survive that period with little or no conflict. The following talks about these techniques.
• Do some research on PMS and menstruation there are a lot of information available on the internet, books to read, also talk to your woman she can give you a clear picture of her experiences during that time.
• Understand that PMS is almost nearly impossible for you to understand, it’s a situation of experiencing it to know exactly how it feels. Yes it is hard to comprehend just how painful the cramps are, just how much a woman can bleed every month and still have enough blood to survive, and how her hormones affect her body in strange ways during this time. The best a man can do is to understand that he does not understand a thing about PMS, and ultimately focus on loving the woman he fell in love with despite her current situation. Moreover, Understanding that your woman will feel and act differently at a certain time of the month will help you to be ready .
• Help out around the house give her a break for all those tedious chores that she often do happily to please you. It’s very difficult coming in from work, doing the shopping, the cooking, and the cleaning, take care of the children and the dog, and still have enough energy to meet your bedroom needs. Men you’ll have to step up and do most
of the above activities because more than likely she will in pain, terrible mood, therefore, make it your responsibility to ensure that she has enough rest and does not need to strain herself during this period.
• Do not make fun of her PMS symptoms; be sure not to talk about it in a way that will make her uncomfortable. Do not argue with her and tell her that she is being unreasonable because of PMS, that’s just ticks a woman off, or laugh at her because she looks like a teenager with acne. However, when you do figure out that she is in her period, just pretend that you do not notice anything weird about her and assure her that everything is fine by how you act around her. If you do not want her to become the raging lunatic that you do not like, then do not joke or blame any of her behaviours on PMS.
• Spoil and pamper her around that time, bring her something nice for no apparent reason, for example cheesecake, chocolate, flowers. Listen for cues around that time to find out what her cravings are and maybe surprise her with it. You can even take it up a notch send her to the spa or take her out to a nice date all those things can ,make that period a bearable one for you both.
• Expect changes to your sex routines some women might turn into a complete sex maniac, while some may not want sex at all so men be mindful to those changes and try to be understanding and supportive during those time.
• Finally tell her and show her that you love her, there’s a saying “love conquers all” well in this instance “love conquers PMS”.

 

 

 

 

 

Understanding the claw…………

So the craving start, you unexplainably have the urge to eat a macro cheesecake and you go get it, and true to form you ate the cheesecake and another craving soon arrives, you then find yourself very sensitive about stuff that really on a normal day won’t matter. Bucket of tears can be found if you have a falling out with someone and worst case scenario an enemy is made. However you clearly have no control over these feeling unless you’re aware of them. Some at this point may probably wonder where I’m going with this, it simple I’m speaking about that period before you menstruate every month i once heard someone refer to it ” as the claw”.
The medical term is called premenstrual syndrome better known as PMS for short which is known to be the period where a wide variety of symptoms occur, such as mood swings, tender breasts, food cravings, fatigue, irritability and depression. However It’s estimated that as many as 3 of every 4 menstruating women have experienced some form of premenstrual syndrome.
Symptoms tend to recur in a predictable pattern. But the physical and emotional changes you experience with premenstrual syndrome may vary from just slightly noticeable all the way to intense (Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research, 2017).
Now I’ve heard about PMS but never actual experience it until now, I would find myself very irritable and moody at times, having big disagreements over small things or pending problems, and before you know it in a few day my period is here. I did some research and oh boy found loads of information concerning this syndrome.
Firstly theirs no cure for PMS but with a few modifications to one’s lifestyles it can improve and relieve some of the symptoms you may experience during that period.
A balance diet is necessary as it provides the nutritional value that the body needs in the correct proportions. However with PMS it’s advisable Try to eat more fruits, vegetables, and whole grains the week before your period. As it improves not only improves your overall health but mood, healthy body healthy mind. Avoid salt-heavy diet which can cause bloating, caffeine that aggravate irritability or anxiety, alcohol which worsen depression, and too much sugar can destabilize your blood sugar and mood. So in essence don’t give into the cheesecake craving.

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Exercise which goes hand in hand with a balance diet can also help as it promotes circulation throughout the body which relieves stress and anxiety. Even though you may not have the energy, this is probably when it is most important to exercise. Choose a couple of exercises you enjoy.

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Trying herbal remedies which are understudied and unregulated when compared to prescription drugs, but there are some that may be effective in relieving PMS symptoms like cramping and mood swings such as, black cohosh, chasteberry, evening primrose oil, ginger, raspberry leaf, dandelion, or natural progesterone creams to name a few.
Try relaxation methods as it helps relieve stress. It is important that ample amount of rest and is acquired simply by getting as much sleep as you think you need so that sleep deprivation doesn’t ratchet up symptoms. Also make a conscious effort to reduce your stress level for example, deep breathing, massage, meditation, or yoga, which can soothe the mind and body. Basically do what works for you .
For women who have PMS-related pain such as cramping, breast tenderness, backaches, or headaches, nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory pain relievers (NSAIDs) can provide some relief. These include ibuprofen (Advil and similar drugs) panadol and naproxen (Aleve) to name a few.
Try vitamins although there’s not much hard evidence to prove that these supplements work. It still worth the try as the foods we eat may not provide our total nutritional value needed by the body. Some possible vitamins are as follows: Calcium: 1,200 milligrams, Magnesium: 400 mg, Vitamin B6: 50 to 100 mg, Vitamin E: 400 international units
And finally in worst case scenario try Antidepressants which are often effective at reducing PMS symptoms, especially depression, anxiety, irritability, and other mood changes. In particular, studies have found that selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) make a significant difference, although these drugs work better for women who take them regularly instead of just during part of their menstrual cycles. Other medications to discuss with your doctor are oral contraceptives, which can reduce PMS symptoms for some women.
PMS is real and as men in relationships it’s important that you familiarize yourself with this symptom to better cope with your partner.
STAY TUNE PART TWO IS RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER where we will discuss the man’s roles in dealing with premenstrual syndrome.

 

References
10 Ways to Get Rid of PMS (2017) Health Media Ventures, Inc. Retrieved from. http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20461504,00.html#chart-your-symptoms-0.
Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) (2017) Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research. Retrieved from http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/premenstrual-syndrome/basics/definition/con-20020003.

 

What i have to say is important

I believe what i have to say is important, and that my opinions can be used to help someone, ecourage and even educate. although i’m still very much new to blogging.  I’m eager to learn and share with you’ll so please do endulge , Check out my blogs and don’t forget to leave a comment, like, share and follow for more incredible reading. https://mylilyb.wordpress.com.

Dealing with conflict………

 

Dealing with the general public can be a tedious affair, because sometimes you come across the most pleasant person’s and then again you can meet someone that can really tick you off and test your patient. How do you handle a difficult or rude customer without being unprofessional and rude is important as a customer service representative.

Over the years I’ve had numerous experiences and yes I must admit in the beginning I found myself arguing with customers especially when I felt they had overstepped their boundaries, and yes even to this day I struggle with such but I have learnt how to deal with such situations after having several experiences over the years, I have definitely grown.

According to SkillsYouNeed.com (2017) the first step to solving a conflict is to decide what strategy you are going to use to address the issue. However before you can do that, you need to identify the root source of the conflict, and therefore its type for example, a customer makes a complaint about the type of service given to him at your establishment you can either choose to be dismissive or actually address the situation immediately. It is important in most cases to deal with a conflict early so that negative emotions do not get out of hand and a resolution can be realize soon.

Assertiveness seems to be the motto of solving a conflict, being able to express your views clearly and firmly without aggression is the major key. One model to use is ‘Describe the situation, Express your feelings and specify what you want done.

 Practising active listening is another key to ensure that you fully understand the position of those involved in the conflict, whether you are an active participant or a potential mediator.

It’s also helpful to understand and recognise emotion in both yourself and others.

Having Emotions are never good or bad, but simply appropriate or inappropriate, and it’s useful in managing conflict to help others recognise when emotions are inappropriate, and when it’s fine to express them.  It is also helpful to be able to put yourself in other people’s shoes, and support those involved to do the same. This skill is called Empathy.

So the next time you are faced with a situation of conflict just remember these few tips of how to deal with conflict.

 

References

An Introduction to Conflict Resolution. (2017). SkillsYouNeed.com. Retrieved from https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/conflict-resolution.html.